I’m the type of person who always needs to be moving ahead, so while the adoption process has its own steps, I need to feel that I’m being as proactive as possible during this time. I think it just makes me feel less helpless while we wait for the next step. So here’s the list of things I plan to get done before our special K joins our family. I’m sure the list will continue to develop as the adoption process unforlds, so keep checking back.
#1 – Find a new home for Chica
Chica is our 6 year old Chihuahua. She’s absolutely wonderful as a companion, but she does have some bad habits, including leaving messes in the house, barking at anyone other then our family, being agressive with other dogs, and unpredictable with strangers. For these reasons, and the fact that with 3 (going on 4) children, we have less and less time for her, we’ve decided to look for a new home for her. It was a hard decision that I’ve been struggling with for about a year, but knowing she may be the deal-breaker when the adoption worker comes to do a home visit is just too much of a risk, so I have to put my emotions aside and do what’s best for my family.
Go one a trip with Mike
Mike and I have been married since 2004, and the only trip we’ve gone on alone is our honeymoon. A friend of mine is getting married this summer, and we’re going out to BC for the wedding. So we decided to take this opportunity to make it into a vacation for the two of us as well. We will most likely take Kayden, but we’ll see. It’s important for Mike and I to maintain a close bond in order to parent the best we can. So this trip is pretty important.
Become a minimalist
A minimalist is someone who lives a life as free of chaos as possible. Some take this lifestyle to the extreme, but my plan is just to have a clutter-free home. This is something I’ve been working on for a few years. I would love to have a home that looks like a picture from a magazine, but with 3 kiddos, I keep my expectations realistic.
Buy a new home
After the birth of our first son Kailer, we tried to get pregnant again for years, before the doctor told us we could keep trying but the odds were stacked against us, and he was sorry about my infertility. After 5 years, Mike and I finally accepted his diagnosis as our reality. We bought a 2 bedroom house, and 2 months later found out we were pregnant with Kaleb. We decided to renovate, and built a third bedroom (ours) in the basement. Soon our 8 year old Kailer was asking for his own room, so we turned the upstairs office into a bedroom. For now baby Kayden is in our room, but will soon be moved into the nursery with Kaleb. So we will need a third kids bedroom once our special K is ready to join us. Our plan is to move in 2015 when our mortgage is up for refinancing, but we may move before that if the adoption process takes less time.
Perfect special K’s room
Well, this one is kind of self-explanatory. Once weève moved into our 4 bedroom house and we’ve been paired up with our special K, we’ll know her age, and I can arrange and decorate her room accordingly.
Organize a Welcome party for our special K
Our special K’s arrival will definitely be cause for celebration, so that’s what she will get. It may be a baby shower-type party or just a welcome party, depending on how much time we have to prepare for her arrival. Either way, it will be fun and exciting!